I live in a country where people take promises lightly, forgetting that the Prophet ﷺ has said one of four characteristics of a hypocrite is breaking promises.
We may have come across this hadeeth but sadly, we didn't observe. Some of us may think it's got to be the most serious matter. It doesn't apply to simpler ones. So, they belittle their 'not-so-important' promises. Little do they know every small matter regarding the deen, matters.
You said you were coming at nine but it's now almost ten. You said it'd be on Friday but you broke your promise asking for the next day. The next day you ask, "What about the night, instead?" And this never doesn't happens. No matter who you are whether it be you're their closest friends or family, they're bothered. If you can't come at 9, why say so? If you can't meet your promise, why promised? Be real. Be realistic. Say in shaa Allah not but not because you don't wanna say no but because when things go between you over and over again, they will accept your apologies better. Don't make them wait or change their plans because you never know what they've done to make sure they can spend time with you because how much they valued you. Your friendship. Your relationship.
By not wasting other people's time, we can improve our self-discipline. We should not wait till somebody gets annoyed to start being on time; to start keeping our words. They get annoyed but they will forgive you, but the thing is we need to stop saying what we don't mean.
We may have come across this hadeeth but sadly, we didn't observe. Some of us may think it's got to be the most serious matter. It doesn't apply to simpler ones. So, they belittle their 'not-so-important' promises. Little do they know every small matter regarding the deen, matters.
You said you were coming at nine but it's now almost ten. You said it'd be on Friday but you broke your promise asking for the next day. The next day you ask, "What about the night, instead?" And this never doesn't happens. No matter who you are whether it be you're their closest friends or family, they're bothered. If you can't come at 9, why say so? If you can't meet your promise, why promised? Be real. Be realistic. Say in shaa Allah not but not because you don't wanna say no but because when things go between you over and over again, they will accept your apologies better. Don't make them wait or change their plans because you never know what they've done to make sure they can spend time with you because how much they valued you. Your friendship. Your relationship.
By not wasting other people's time, we can improve our self-discipline. We should not wait till somebody gets annoyed to start being on time; to start keeping our words. They get annoyed but they will forgive you, but the thing is we need to stop saying what we don't mean.
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