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Careless Miscommunication

Communication is key.
Meet up and talk.
Pay attention to the state of your friend.
Notice if there is any warning sign.
Are they grumpy?
Are they being unreasonably quiet?
Not being their usual self?
Not excited?
Lousy?
Why?
Have they been like this or is it because you're seeing them after a long time of not being bothered to keep in touch?
Is there a possibility of a toxic friendship between you?
What's up?
Do they have a personal problem which they'd be uncomfortable talking about?
All in all,  give them space and don't push.
Just kindly tell them what you see and feel.
And listen...

No more negative thoughts
No more what-if's

Because misinterpreting a situation is what makes you feel distant
Especially when all you see is what happens online; not in real person
Like their posts about broken friendship that did not turn out to be about yours and theirs.
So, make time to catch up with them.
Listen.
Talk.
It will clear up all the doubts and assumptions that seem to make sense when long distance gets in your way.

//16-07-18

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